Alice in Asymptotes

because I want to be who I will be right now.
~ Tuesday, August 30 ~
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potatowise said: Hey Alice. Sorry I creepily found your tumblr...I just wanted to ask a couple questions. I read the thing about being a "good wife" so, why do you agree wit h that? I feel that it is demeaning to women and it shames what women's rights activists have been working for for years and years. I'm not trying to be mean here, I'm just genuinely curious. How do you feel about it?

Hey Watty!! It’s been a while. 

It’s been so long that I’ve been on Tumblr that I was like what is she talking about? And then I realized that the reason I didn’t remember it was because I didn’t write it. 

I’ll go through the points that this girl makes and tell you why I like them/what I think about them. 

1. Pray with him

-This is something that’s extremely important for me, my husband needs to share my religious beliefs because those beliefs shape me in such a way and are such a big part of me that if he does not then I will not be able to share that entire side of me with him. I want to be able to be open with him about everything and have that deeper understanding and faith. 

2. Keep him sexually satisfied at all times. 

-This one sounds weird but I’m not saying that my husband will be like taking advantage of me at all times but I interpret this as saying that I see nothing wrong with sex at all. AT ALL. I just think it should be in the context of marriage, and I believe that in marriage, your body not only belongs to yourself but it belongs to your spouse and to God as well. So there will be times when I’m tired after work and he wants it and because I love him I will oblige and vice versa. But there will be a level of respect involved there. 

3. Tell him “I love you” every day.

This for me is more of a—no matter how much I am pissed at you, even if we’ve been together for so long that it’s implied, etc., I will tell you “I love you” because those words have power and I don’t know what the next day is going to bring/if I’m even going to be around. You can’t predict a car crash or an illness. In the same way, I will tell my kids that every day. 

4. Cook.

I don’t expect to be chained to the stove (rice cooker, etc. lol) every day, but a big part of my family life was around the dinner table for me. And I was always so proud of my mom’s cooking. “My mom makes the best Korean food EVER” haha and I want to be able in some way to translate that to my family. My perfect guy cooks though. 

5. Clean

Uhh this is just kind of me being OCD. Plus I don’t want to be a bad example for my kids. 

I think what it comes down to is that:

I want to have the kind of love with my husband where we work through things together, want to make each other happy, and put our family first, and I also want to make sure that my house is one that is a primarily happy place for my kids to grow up in and also a safe place.  

This is honestly shaped a lot from my own experiences in the home—I had a really good childhood and I also have been having a really tough time family-wise recently so those factors combined are making me really determined that if I do marry and I do have kids (both of which I want eventually) then I will do my best to be an awesome wife and mother. I don’t want my kids to go through what I am going through now. 

However, I also want a career so I’m not sure how I’m going to balance those right now. But I will cross that bridge when I come to it. There’s a quote by Jackie Kennedy that’s something like, “If you mess up raising your kids, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much” which I semi agree with sentiment-wise and semi disagree with logically.

So that’s what I think. It’s long and detailed but I hope it answered your questions. 

I’m curious about what you feel is demeaning to women, and also what the activists have been working towards because I only have a vague idea. Is it the idea of men being placed above women in the home/women being relegated to stereotypical cook/clean/take after the kids roles? 

Miss you and hope you’re doing well:]


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~ Friday, July 15 ~
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Alice, please remember this. Always be kinder than you feel.

Alice, please remember this. Always be kinder than you feel.


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I’ve not been

this passionate about a project in a long time. My mentor told me the other day that I looked beautiful and it was because I am ‘actually happy.’

What does that mean? Have I just had a facsimile of happiness lately? Just stuck in my comfort zone?

I need to do “The Work” involved in changing my life because 

I refuse to be average. 

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~ Wednesday, July 13 ~
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She turns her can’ts into cans and her dreams into plans

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More

and more I’m realizing that I shouldn’t give a crap about what “society” wants or expects me to do. I only live once. 

That being said, I kind of can’t drop out of college. I have to stay and play the ‘college game’ and live it up while I can. 

And then things will get interesting. 


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THIS IS BRILLIANCE.
orientaltiger:

Pillow Blanket by Joon&Jung

THIS IS BRILLIANCE.

orientaltiger:

Pillow Blanket by Joon&Jung


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~ Monday, July 11 ~
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jennaliston:

Vision boarding for for making a 3,000 sf warehouse a live work space.

jennaliston:

Vision boarding for for making a 3,000 sf warehouse a live work space.

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It’s been a little while but

here’s a life update:

1) I have made some poor life choices and I have made some good life choices recently. 

2) I have seen the final shuttle launch.

3) I have decided to become more hermit-like.

4) God has given me some direction for my life. 

I consider number 3 to be an excellent life choice because I realized that I was not getting my summer goals completed with my past lifestyle. There’s kind of 2 sides to me—the focused motivated give-me-alone-time Alice and the I-miss-my-friends let’s hang out all the time Alice. I’m strongly trying to nurture the first Alice, but it’s hard because I still love interacting with people. 

So I’ve been studying Korean more. I’ve been doing a lot of resting up and letting myself dream/relax. But today I met with one of my good friends who continually inspires me with how motivated and passionate she is. She works 18+ hours every day and is still high-energy and full of life all the time. She’s the kind of person who looks and acts stupid but will overtake you very quickly if you take them lightly. 

She made a vision board—a physical posterboard with pictures of her dreams and inspirations—and went through it with me, and now after I finish doing this internship stuff I am headed to the store to get a gluestick and my own posterboard. I need something tangible to look at. 

I’ve also had this insistent, insatiable desire to travel somewhere and take some time for myself to do what I want and to work. I’ve been trolling airbnb.com and scouting out places that I can stay in and just chill. Although considering my physique it’s probably best to go with someone who can protect me. I could fly, but I would much prefer to drive. 

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About a week ago I had a mini breakdown when I got too overwhelmed with the uncertainty that surrounded the question of “what are you going to do with your life?” It just kept on eating away at me until I couldn’t take it and I went to one of my favorite places in the world and I just was broken there praying for God to give me guidance. I know that there are certain things that I selfishly want to do, but whatever God wants me to do will be the greatest thing of my life, because there is nothing I feel more fulfilled in than being used by Him. 

And today, like always, He gave me some direction! I really love documentaries and nonfiction books about crazy quests and it’s always kind of been a pipe dream to write about that/work with amazing people and write about them but I have been given that opportunity in my internship and I am extremely excited. I could go on and on about how I am looking forward to this but I will save that for another time. Daily chats with Greg start tomorrow morning. Thelacproject.com is hopefully going to help us out too. 

Can I really do this? Can I really live the life I want to live? I will I will I will.


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~ Wednesday, July 6 ~
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enochliew:

Pitch House by Iñaqui Carnicero
The skylight feels like it’s opened to the outside because the frame is not visible.

dreams

enochliew:

Pitch House by Iñaqui Carnicero

The skylight feels like it’s opened to the outside because the frame is not visible.

dreams


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